I am one of five daughters.
My mother was one of five daughters.
My mother’s mother was one of five daughters.
I come from a lineage of five daughters born on my mother’s side of the family for three generations in a row. Too bad it’s not five generations in a row. It would have made for an even better blog post! There may have been five generations of five daughters, but the fact is that I don’t have knowledge of my mother’s family past my great grandmother, Mamma Rosi.
there are five great lakes: erie, huron, michigan, ontario, superior … i was born in gary, indiana, which borders one of the five great lakes, lake michigan….my birth town, gary, indiana, was also home of the jackson five, there are five points in a star, five cups in a sake set when purchased in Japan, five arms in a starfish, and an earthworm as five hearts. there are five senses: hearing, smelling, taste, touch, sight…five vowels in the English alphabet, five players on the the court in basketball, five olympic rings symbolizing five continents, in the yoga tradition, there are five layers of a human being, which are known has the koshas in sanskrit. there are five toes on each foot and five fingers on each hand, five elements in chinese tradition: wood, fire, earth, metal, and water, five elements in the hindu tradition: earth, water, fire, air, ether or space, and five primary colors: green/blue, yellow, red, white, black
And there are FIVE photos I’d like to share with you.
These family photos are my treasures.
PHOTO NUMBER ONE:
FIVE SISTERS: My Grandmother in the middle, Antonia Tirone Licata, and her sisters, on their family vineyard in Grotte during the grape harvest (la vendemmia).
Who thought to bring a camera out to the vineyards to photograph these five sisters at grape harvest time in Grotte, Sicily? Back then, the concept of smiling when being photographed was absurd. Instead, you looked straight into the camera and acted your dignified best.
My grandmother is the petite woman in the middle. She was the smallest of the five, small but powerful. She ruled the roost. I once overheard my mother and one of her sisters describing their parents, “La mamma ficiva lu pappa e lu pappa ficiva la mamma.” Mother wore the pants and Father was the one we went to for coddling and comfort.” (Literally, “Mother played the role of Father and Father played the role of Mother.”)
My grandmother and her sisters enjoyed long lives. My grandmother birthed and raised ten children. She also worked as both midwife and undertaker in the village of Grotte. She helped the villagers enter the world and was there to wash and prepare their bodies for their burials. Death did not frighten her. Her nickname among the villagers was Sant’ Anto (Saint Antonia). Even today, when I go to the village, I introduce myself as the daughter of Pina di Sant’Anto and immediately I carve out a place for myself in the village.
Three of the sisters are wearing black, the color of mourning because they are widows. One of my great auntie’s has her hair covered in a white scarf, typical hair attire at harvest time in Sicily. The white scarf served as a hat-like covering to keep the scorching sun off her head. She also is wearing a white medallion pinned to her dress. We can’t see it up close, but it is a photo of her deceased husband. My grandmother wore a medallion like that, too, pinned to her dress for over 3o years of widowhood. Even today, the widows of Grotte never forget their deceased husbands. They rarely re-marry, even if widowed young, and they go to the cemetery often to wipe dust from the headstones, to water the flowers around the grave, and to pray. One of my great aunties in the photo above has removed her white scarf, probably for the photo, and has it slung over her shoulder. All of these sisters wore their hair long, wrapped in a tight bun. When I visited my her, I used to love watching my Nonna undo her hair at night. Her hair was wispy long and steely gray.
The sisters are proudly displaying bunches of picked grapes. These magnificent women are Earth-Women. I love how they stand, firmly rooted to the earth! I love their strong ample bodies. My grandmother is holding, nearly hugging, a typical woven basket from Sicily. In the Sicilian dialect the woven basket is called a cartedda, a word derived from the Greek (from kartallos), because Sicily was a Greek colony in ancient times. I had an uncle who used to make such baskets during the winter months, when he wasn’t busy tending his farm.
PHOTO NUMBER TWO:
Grandmother Antonia Tirone Licata (Mamma Anto’) with her sisters and two brothers. These are the adult children of my great grandmother, Mamma Rosi (Rosa Zaffuto Tirone).
Another priceless gem! Again, my grandmother is in the middle with her sisters and her two brothers. In fact, the sisters have all taken the same standing position as in the grape harvest photo! They are older in this photo. Now there are four women dressed in black, four widows. Their hair is definitely thinner. I love how the sisters all carry brand new purses. What on earth did they carry in their purses? I never knew my grandmother to carry a purse. She carried her enormous skeleton key, tied on a long string, tucked and buried deep between her breasts. The image left an indelible impression on this author’s ten year-old girl’s brain!
The photo was taken inside a house. It is not my grandmother’s house. You can see the wooden doors behind the family and the sheer lace curtains that cover the door. And you can see a fancy doll decorating a sofa. Maybe it is the village photography studio.
I was lucky enough to meet my grandmother and her siblings! The five sisters and their two brothers all lived to be in their 80s and 90s. Mostly I remember “Tsa Ve” (Zia Veva), the woman with the half smile whose hand is on my grandmother’s shoulder, because she immigrated to Hamilton, Ontario, Canada to live with her son and his family. I met her on several occasions in Canada when I was young.
PHOTO NUMBER THREE:
This is a great family treasure: a photo of my grandparents, Antonia Tirone Licata and her husband Vincenzo Licata and their ten children, five girls and five boys. My mother is one of five daughters. My mother is the one with her hand on her little brother’s shoulder. This photo was probably taken in the same place as the previous photo, which makes me think this is the village photographic studio. Look at the floors! But this time, there is a sheet covering the wall behind the family. I love how in the two “studio” photos, almost everyone is given a prop to hold. I bet the photographer handed out handbags/purses to the ladies, newspapers and scrolls to the men, and toys to the children.
When I go to Grotte, every aunt and uncle present in this photo has a copy of this Licata family portrait. My aunts and uncles keep a framed copy of this photo at their bedside. As long as the siblings live, before going to bed, they say goodnight to their beloved mother and father who are long gone. I have seen them kiss this photo before retiring for the night. Five of the siblings have died (my mother being one of them) and five are still alive. Two of the sisters are still alive. Rosa, the eldest of all ten children, will soon celebrate her 100th birthday. Maria celebrated 97 years of life just a few days ago! There is a 26-year span between Rosa, the eldest, and Decimo, the youngest, whose name literally means “tenth child”.
PHOTO NUMBER FOUR:
My mom, her sisters, and their mother
The photo above was taken in 1972 at my grandmother’s house in Grotte. My mother is wearing white. Three of the aunties wear their long hair in an old Sicilian traditional style, tightly pulled back and knotted in a bun. This is the only photo I have of all the sisters together in their later years.
PHOTO NUMBER FIVE: My mom and her five girls! This was taken in Gary, Indiana. I am the baby. I love my purse! The tradition of holding a prop in one’s hand while being photographed continues!